Having a great style could be highly rewarding but it certainly does extend beyond the wardrobe. Fashion itself won’t make you a gentleman. It’s the respect, kindness and manners that you carry with yourself along with style makes you a proper gentleman. A well dressed man must know how to present himself socially, the right dating skills with women and professionalism that gives him all the strength to his character to being the real classy guy who stands out amongst the rest of the boys hanging around.
Here in this article you are about to master the skills of how to carry yourself like a gentleman. Nobody could ever say that he is a perfect example of a gentleman. It’s what other would say or perceive about them by seeing their style and the way they carry themselves. It’s a priceless comment which a lot of men seek from others for themselves. A man who has a decent character is called a gentleman. And all it takes to be a gentleman is consistent effort, discipline and awareness. From this day on, you should live by these ideals which surely would be a great start for you to being the classy man in town.
Phone addiction
-
It is no-no for a gentleman to put his phone on the dinner table, at the bar or any other place where a lot of people are sitting together at the same space.
- A cell phone is a private device which is used to make plans and calls etc. When you are with someone, focus on them. Try to keep your attention to the opposite person you are sitting with by listening and talking to them instead of chatting or playing games on your phone making them feel unwanted. A gentleman would never do that.
If you think that you won’t be able to live without looking at your phone, then try practicing at home by turning off the phone in the evening and going for a walk. Keeping your hands steady and not touching your phone regardless of how tempt you might get. This way you would be able to live your life without your phone being constantly on your mind at all times.
Talking Politics & Religion
-
Politics and religion are topics which doesn’t have an ending or a clear conclusion. These deep-rooted talks about other people, opinions about others should be left unspoken when you are hanging around in a social place. High level generalizations might make someone in your group uncomfortable. Whatever you are saying right in contrast to politics and religion is also wrong in someone else’s viewpoint at the same time. And matters eventually lead to arguments and fight.
- If you must say something, then talk about personal experiences, general talk and ideas about new things. Always remember this saying - Small minds talk about other people, Average minds talk about events and GREAT minds talk about ideas.
Complaining
Before you start to speak, think! Nobody wants to know:
- How much you drank last night
- How tired you are right now or
- How bad the weather is ‘’Speech is of silver, Silence is Golden’’
Introductions
-
If you bring someone new in a social gathering with your friends, a party or any event, it’s your job to introduce him/her to your friends or colleagues.
- Start by introducing them with the host of the party as they are welcoming the new friend at their place. And then later introduce them to the crowd one by 0ne. This way everyone would get comfortable knowing the new person and socialise with each other easily
The importance of voice to voice communication
-
In this modern world where everyone converse with each other through texts, there is very less chance for our hearts to communicate openly. Avoid texts instead call your family, friends or colleagues directly over the phone and speak with them to know about their life.
-
It’s a very polite and effective way to show kindness and let your loved ones know that you care. Paying for a friend
-
If you invite someone to hang out with you like a date or meeting, it’s polite for you to pay the bill at the restaurant or cafe. Remember, never invite someone and let them pay the bills.
- Even if you don’t have enough money, take them to a cheap coffee shop or walk with them in a mall or a park to spend some time but don’t let them pay the bill.
Shaking Hands
Perhaps shaking off hands with people is the most common thing that we come across daily life. There are certain techniques to do a proper hand shake etiquette which you can learn from the internet but here is a basic tip for you.
- Offer your hands out and invite the other person to shake their hands with you.
- Once the two hands grab each other, wait for the other person to initiate a squeeze. This means they will pull their hands up and down to shake.
- If they take too long then you do it. One good squeeze and then one ups-and-down whilst looking at them straight to their eyes. That’s it!
Often men hug or kiss the opposite sex and never bother to shake the hands. It’s not rude to shake your hands with women of upper or lower class. Hand shake also allows physical sensations to flow between the man and woman. Let the lady shake hands up and down once the two hands are grabbed as this shows your politeness towards them.
Giving Cheers
- Eye contact is a definite need when you clink glasses together with another person. This shows that both are connected to the same happiness or the moment.
Goodbyes
- Always be thankful to the other person for them spending time with you. Look in their eyes and let them know that you appreciate their company and that you will miss them until next them. This is a perfect way to end saying goodbyes.
Remembering names
- Once you meet someone new, greet them by saying with their name for an example ‘Hi, I am glad to meet you Paul’ or if you ever run into them at a party, ‘What a co-incidence Paul, we meet again, How have you been?’ This surprises the other person and honours them that you remember their name and this is a sign of being a true gentleman.
Hats & Sunglasses
If you wear a sunglass or a hat casually when you are outdoors, it is absolutely cool and looks fine. But once you get inside any restaurant or indoor social areas, remove your cap/hat/sunglasses from your body as this is unpleasant and show lack of etiquettes. Listen More, Talk Less
- “The quietest man in the room is the most confident”. Observe and gain knowledge from what others speak of. If you have any point to make, quietly do so. But never brag about what you have achieved and your accomplishments. Your deeds will speak for you themselves and you will always be remembered by that.
Bfab team wishes you all the best in your journey in life. We always create contents to keep you updated with the latest trends, beauty secrets and tips which would help you setting up your style. Thank you for reading this article. Yours in style, Bfab.